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Choices

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Here in the US we live in a society of choices.  No matter what you want to do your options are many and we’re told that this is a benefit.  After all, who doesn’t love the ability to choose?

As I go through my too many things I realize that this is how I’ve been living my life as well.  I want to be able to choose what crafty thing I want to do.  I want to get the best, most perfect equipment to do whatever thing I want to do.  And all of that adds up to a lot of stuff.

But the reality is that choices have a big drawback… time.  It takes time to make a choice.  It takes time to research options to find the best possible widget for the job.  And it of course takes time to make the money to buy that best possible widget.

And this was my experience with quilting.  Of course I need a rolling cutter… isn’t that how quilters cut stuff?  And the pad for cutting.  And the other wheels for cutting.  And the (insert endless lists of things here)…

But the reality is that as I invest in more choices I have to learn how to use these things.  And I have to burn time figuring out which thing is the best thing.  And while society does indeed teach us to have the right tool for the job, people have been using the “wrong” tool for many years.

My choices have actually made me less likely to complete a new undertaking because each step requires more work.  Turns out scissors cut fabric just fine for a beginning quilter.  I don’t need more stuff to do it, certainly not when I’ve yet to decide if I actually like doing this type of project.

The same choice options become problematic with other things as well.  Why do I need 20+ pairs of pants?  Is it because I want to spend a lot of time each morning deciding what to wear?  As anyone who knows me will tell you, no, rather obviously I don’t want to spend time doing that.  So then here I am with clothes I never wear that take up space, make it harder to organize the stuff I have and costing me money for things I don’t actually use.

While I’m not suggesting that I live in one pair of pants (though that’s usually what I do anyway most of the time) questioning my “need” for options and choices certainly has me thinking about how I spend my time and money.  If I’m not using it why do I have it?  And more importantly, can I stop myself from buying more of these things so I have choices I don’t want to make anyway?

Options are great when the return on your time invested to make them pays off but making due with a less than optimal item is both a time and money saver.  The real trick is that by making due you eventually figure out if having another option is worth it and and at that point sifting through the options is easier because you know what you need and want.  From this point forward I will make due with the things I have until such a point that I know WHY and WHAT I’d actually like to make a task easier and I’ll wait and examine if that new choice, that new thing, is actually worth the effort.

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All or Nothing

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“If you’re not happy, changing your circumstance also means changing your attitude.  In “Ruling Your World”, Sakyong Mipham notes, “The most practical way to ensure forward movement on the path of rulership is to train for a short time each day in changing our attitude- just 10 percent.”  We have to be open to the possibility of positive change and then actively work toward it.  I overcame my fears by taking one small actionable step every day.  Eventually, these small steps give us the momentum we need to make the big shifts we want- in our career or our circumstances.  If it seems to happen slowly, that’s okay.  Living simply has taught me how important it is to let go of rigid expectations and to be open to new opportunities- and how a small shift in attitude can literally change your life.”

From You Can Buy Happiness (And it’s Cheap)

 

For a lot of my life I was a perfectionist.  Everything I did had to be done well and completely.  Which of course meant nothing ever really got started and very little ever got completed.  Because really, nothing will ever be perfect so why bother?

But more importantly the idea that any task had to be finished in some specific period of time gave me enough stress that the entire idea was painful to even think about.  Why work on decluttering the basement if I believe it has to be done in one weekend?  Is that what I want to do with an entire weekend?  NO!

Once I let go of those expectations I could instead work a little at the time.  Often that meant that I was more realistic about what I could accomplish in any given time (no, the entire basement won’t take just a weekend).  Often it meant that I didn’t burn myself out trying to accomplish the impossible.

But the real benefit is that this new way of dealing with tasks is a lot more enjoyable and motivational.

Just this Monday I wanted to weed my yard but I was exhausted from a busy week and weekend and felt like I needed to just nap.  Rather than doing nothing which would have felt a bit ugly (now it’s on tomorrow’s list of things to do) I gave myself an easy target.  One bucket of weeds.  One bucket and then I’m done no matter what (unless I really wanna do more).  That’s easy.  And it was easy to motivate myself to do it.

In the end if my expectations of specific results cause me to never have any results isn’t it time to give up the expectations?

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Time

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As many of you know I tend to have a lot of jobs.  I do quite a bit of contract work and often have as many as 6 different jobs at any given time.  This may seem like it takes every waking minute but as it turns out I have more time to do the things I want to do than many people I know.  There are lots of reasons for this and mostly it’s a function of me being smarter about my time and how I manage my time than I was in the past.

Sometimes this comes down to rules I have for myself.  There aren’t many of these but today’s Ten Things post directly relates to one of them.  I keep everything I need to do in my outlook calendar… no more to do lists (which is a topic for another time).  And with that there is a rule.

If I delay/move a task 3 times I take it off my calendar.

Let’s face it, if I can move it 3 times it’s pretty likely it doesn’t need to be done as I’ve lived thus far without doing it.  It also likely isn’t a priority for my life and time, and isn’t likely to happen no matter how many times I move it.  So why keep fooling myself.  “Do or do not, there is no try.”

In this case I’ve been carrying around cassette tapes forever.  My plan was to go through them, find the ones that I haven’t purchased as digital music and then either list that somewhere or buy them.  But really, why would I want to spend my time doing that?

I’ve lived pretty well without this music for about 10 years now (the amount of time I estimate I’ve not had a cassette player).  And sure, some mixed tapes from the past will be gone forever.  But also gone is a task that has been on the list for so long it’s ludicrous.

Just like those things we keep for that mystical time in the future when we’ll use them, sometimes we keep tasks around for that mystical time in the future when they’ll actually get done.

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What the Hell?

I don’t have that much to report.  Well, nothing other than utter confusion at my past self.  

What the hell were you thinking?

Why am I thinking this?  Because I have clothes from HIGH SCHOOL (yes, I’m yelling here).  I’ve been hauling this crap around for 22+ years.  Because, you know, the clothes I wore in high school are both going to fit again AND because they’re super fashionable now and, you know, forever.

Seriously, as I go through much of the things I’ve not seen for years I have to wonder what attachment made me keep things so obviously useless?  Let’s hope I don’t look back in 20 years while going through my stuff and think the same thing.

What have you found in your stuff that just makes no sense to have kept?

 

(I’m half tempted to post pictures of this stuff… or perhaps pictures from when I wore it… I may need to do a run to the goodwill before I commit this act of insanity!)